In our hyperconnected world, we’re constantly moving—responding to emails, attending meetings, scrolling through feeds, and checking off endless to-do lists.
But in the rush to keep up, we risk losing touch with what truly matters:
- our authentic selves
- our core values
- the direction of our lives
This article explores why deliberately stepping away from the noise isn’t selfish—it’s essential.
Practicing intentional solitude can help you recalibrate your compass, reignite your sense of purpose, and return to your daily life with renewed clarity, energy, and focus.
Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is pause, reflect, and simply be alone with your thoughts.
Don’t Lose Sight of What’s Important
The thing with being super-enmeshed with your day-to-day activities is that you could easily lose sight of who you are, what you want, where you are, and where you are heading. Sometimes you begin to cling to the unimportant things, whilst sacrificing the important things and this is not good.
To live a good life – to win the game of life – we need to constantly listen to our inner voice and reassess our lives based on our values in order to know if we are headed in the right direction, and what to do next.
And this can only be achieved when we learn to step back from the activities of life – when we withdraw and practice having alone time – because that’s the only time we gain the birds-eye view, to see everything and choose for ourselves.
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5 Benefits Of Practicing Alone Time
Before we continue, I just want to point out that there is a distinction between loneliness and solitude.
Loneliness involves feeling disconnected from people (even while still with them physically).
Solitude, or practicing alone time, involves physically removing yourself from everyone (or work) in order to better connect with yourself (and the people you left, when you are back).
Loneliness or isolation can feel like a punishment, but solitude, and having alone time can feel refreshing and is very healthy.
So, moving on, below are some of the benefits of getting away from people and work for a while:
1. It recalibrates you.
There is a popular quote which says,
“Your direction is more important than your speed” – Richard L. Evans
And I agree. Ships don’t just sail off in whatever direction the wind and tides toss them – they’re directed by sailors to the desired destination – even if it means fighting against violent winds.
Being alone gives you the opportunity to ask yourself important questions such as,
- “Is this important to me?”
- “Why is it important to me?”
- “Am I making any progress?”
- “Why am I not making progress?”
- “How can I make progress?”
When these questions are answered, you feel a surge of meaning and purpose burble up to the apex of your being, and surging through your veins – and then you have drive and direction.
2. It helps you to rejuvenate.
It enables you to recharge mentally, emotionally, and physically.
Sometimes, working too hard can make you grow resentful. All the busyness can take a toll on your mind and body, but getting alone time may be all you need to come back stronger, better, and happier.
Needless to say, being alone can increase your creativity, concentration, memory, and consequently your productivity.
3. It helps you reassess your relationships.
Having a large network is good, but having loyal and useful people around you is golden.
Being alone helps you figure out the people you truly care about, and those who are essential (so that you can invest more time and energy in those people). It also helps you weed out the toxic ones, or to dedicate less and less time to those who aren’t helpful.
4. It helps you handle your fears.
Sometimes we worry about things that no longer have any bearing on us (or that never had any in the first place).
By stepping back and gaining perspective, we begin to break free from our fears of maybe what people think, or some other inconsequential dread.
5. It helps you appreciate your achievements and accomplishments.
Because we experience life one day at a time, it’s easy for us to forget how much we’ve been through in the long term and have achieved as a result. Taking a break can help you see that, and make you grateful for everything.
How you decide to get your alone time may vary from the next person, but the idea is to make sure it is truly a getaway, and also peaceful.
It could be going to a movie, going for a hike, starting a long and interesting book you’ve been meaning to read, learning a new instrument or craft, visiting a museum, or anything you find enjoyable on your own.
In the end, what matters is that you’re able to enter a mental state where you’re not just reacting, but rather relaxing, reminiscing, or imagining.
Updated from Nov 4, 2021
Photo by Thiều Hoàng Phước
