Borrowing Bravery: How to Use Your Alter Ego to Overcome Fear

Borrowing Bravery: How to Use Your Alter Ego to Overcome Fear

Fear has a sneaky way of holding us back, doesn’t it?

It whispers quietly, convincing us we’re not good enough, ready enough, or brave enough to step forward. You know the feeling:

  • your heart races
  • your palms sweat

Suddenly, avoiding the thing you’re scared of feels way more appealing than facing it.

Trust me, we’ve all been there.

But here’s a little secret: You don’t always have to face those fears as your everyday self. What if I told you there’s another version of you? A braver, stronger, and completely unbothered by fear—just waiting to step into the spotlight?

This isn’t about pretending or faking confidence; it’s about tapping into your hidden potential by creating an empowering alter ego.

Think Beyoncé. On stage, she isn’t just Beyoncé—she becomes “Sasha Fierce,” a bold, fearless, unstoppable performer who commands attention and leaves self-doubt backstage. This simple but powerful shift allowed her to conquer nerves and unleash her true potential.

Here’s the thing:

You can do exactly the same thing.

Your alter ego is waiting, ready to help you face fears head-on, turning anxiety into courage and hesitation into action.

Suddenly, you feel different, act different, and think different, because you’ve given yourself permission to be someone who can handle the challenge.

 

What Exactly is an Alter Ego?

An alter ego is defined as: 

a person’s secondary or alternative personality.

It’s basically another version of yourself, and it can be one that embodies the confidence, boldness, or strength that your everyday self might struggle to express.

Kind of like putting on a superhero cape whenever you need an extra boost of bravery or confidence.

But don’t worry, this isn’t about becoming someone fake or changing who you really are. Instead, it’s about drawing out hidden aspects of your personality—qualities you already have inside you but might not feel totally comfortable showing yet.

Here’s an example: Imagine you’re naturally shy but have to give a big presentation.

Creating an alter ego named “Alex the Confident” can give you permission to step outside your comfort zone.

  • Alex isn’t scared of making mistakes or speaking up.
  • Alex thrives in front of a crowd.

By stepping into Alex’s shoes, you’re not pretending to be confident—you’re tapping into genuine strengths you already possess, allowing you to show up fully, even when you’re nervous.

People use alter egos all the time. Athletes, artists, even top executives adopt these personas to boost their performance, overcome anxiety, and push past limiting beliefs.

And guess what? You can do this too.

 

The Psychology Behind Using an Alter Ego

So why does this actually work? Why can slipping into an alter ego make fear take a backseat?

It all comes down to how our brains process identity. See, our thoughts and beliefs shape how we act, but sometimes, we get stuck in patterns that keep us small.

Maybe you’ve told yourself, I’m just not a confident person or I’m terrible at speaking up in meetings. The more you believe that, the more your actions reinforce it.

But when you step into an alter ego, something incredible happens. Your brain temporarily lets go of those limiting beliefs. It’s like putting on a costume. Suddenly, you feel different, act different, and think different, because you’ve given yourself permission to be someone who can handle the challenge.

Psychologists call this “self-distancing.”

By seeing a situation through a different lens, whether it’s imagining yourself as someone else or even just referring to yourself in the third person (What would Bold Alex do in this moment?), you trick your brain into silencing self-doubt.

It’s the same reason kids feel invincible when they put on a superhero cape. That identity shift creates instant confidence.

The best part? You don’t have to wait for confidence to magically appear. Your alter ego allows you to borrow that confidence until it feels natural.

 

How an Alter Ego Can Help You Overcome Fear

Now, let’s talk about how this plays out in real life.

Fear shows up in all sorts of situations:

  • job interviews
  • social events
  • big presentations
  • everyday conversations

But instead of letting fear run the show, your alter ego can take the wheel.

Here’s how this works in different situations:

Public Speaking – Maybe regular you hates the idea of speaking in front of a crowd. But your alter ego? They own the stage. They’re composed, charismatic, and totally in control. Before stepping up, channel that energy. Take a deep breath and remind yourself: I’m not nervous. I’m stepping into my speaker persona. Let’s do this.

Job Interviews – Feeling underqualified? Your alter ego sure doesn’t. They walk in like they belong there. They’re confident, prepared, and fully capable of answering any question that comes their way. Instead of “I hope I get this job,” they think, “This company would be lucky to have me.”

First Dates or Social Situations – Your alter ego doesn’t overthink. They don’t worry about being awkward or saying the wrong thing. They show up, relaxed and open. Your alter ego focuses on enjoying the moment instead of analyzing it. Next time nerves creep in, ask yourself: How would my alter ego walk into this room?

The more you practice stepping into this mindset, the more it starts feeling like second nature. Eventually, those strengths you borrow from your alter ego just become…you. No more faking, no more forcing—just a more confident, fearless version of yourself.

And that’s where the magic happens.

 

5 Steps to Creating Your Own Empowering Alter Ego

Alright, now for the fun part—creating your alter ego.

This isn’t about randomly picking a superhero name and hoping for the best. It’s about crafting a version of yourself that already exists deep down but just needs a little help stepping forward.

Follow these steps, and by the end, you’ll have a powerful, go-to persona that can show up whenever you need a confidence boost.

 

Step 1: Identify What You Need Your Alter Ego For

Ask yourself:

  • What situations make me freeze up?
  • Where do I need to be bolder, stronger, or more fearless?

Maybe it’s in social situations, speaking up at work, or pushing past self-doubt in your personal life. Pinpoint exactly where you want your alter ego to show up.

 

Step 2: Choose Their Core Traits

Your alter ego is still you, just with the volume turned way up on the qualities you want to embody.

  • Are they confident?
  • Unapologetic?
  • Magnetic?
  • Calm under pressure?

Decide on 3-5 defining traits that make your alter ego unstoppable.

Example: If you’re afraid of public speaking, your alter ego might be articulate, poised, and totally unfazed by a big audience. If you struggle with setting boundaries, your alter ego might be direct, self-assured, and unshakable.

 

Step 3: Give Them a Name

Sounds silly? Maybe. But trust me—this works. Naming your alter ego makes them real. It also creates a psychological shortcut: when you invoke their name, your brain knows it’s time to switch gears.

Need inspiration? Your alter ego’s name could be:

  • A modified version of your own (e.g., Alex → Alexander the Fearless).
  • A totally new identity (Maverick, Luna, Steel).
  • A reference to someone powerful you admire (Phoenix, Athena, Rocky).

Choose a name that feels right—one that instantly sparks something in you.

 

Step 4: Assign Them a Symbol or Trigger

Your alter ego needs a way to step into the spotlight. This could be:

  • A physical cue (wearing a certain color, a piece of jewelry, or even a power pose).
  • A mental trigger (repeating a phrase like “What would Maverick do?” before stepping into a challenge).
  • A ritual (taking a deep breath, playing a specific song, or straightening your posture before a big moment).

Find what clicks, and use it as a bridge between you and alter-ego you.

 

Step 5: Practice, Practice, Practice

Now, it’s time to bring your alter ego to life.

Start small—try them out in low-pressure situations before using them in bigger ones. The more you practice, the more natural it’ll feel.

And here’s the thing: over time, your alter ego won’t just be an act. They’ll start merging with the real you. The confidence, strength, and boldness you “borrowed” will become your confidence, your strength, your boldness.

By now, you should have everything you need to start using an alter ego to crush fear, build confidence, and take charge of the moments that used to intimidate you.

And the best part? The more you use this, the more you’ll realize that your alter ego was never a separate person—it was just you, all along.

So—who’s your alter ego going to be?

 

Embracing Your Courage Through Your Alter Ego

At the end of the day, fear isn’t something you defeat once and for all. It’s something you learn to work with. Your alter ego is your tool for doing just that.

Remember:

  • Fear will always be there—but your alter ego doesn’t give it the mic.
  • Confidence isn’t something you wait for—it’s something you step into.
  • The traits you “borrow” from your alter ego? They were yours all along.

So, who do you become when it’s time to rise to the occasion? Who steps forward when fear tries to hold you back?

Create your alter ego. Give them a name. Give them power. And then… step into them.

Because the truth is, they were never separate from you in the first place.

They are you.

Now go own it.

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